It happened. Again. I never saw it coming. The whole thing just crushed, crumbled, and crippled me, again. I told you that the atmosphere has been giving presages lately. But you never listened. You thought things were under control that nothing’s going to happen. I kept telling and repeating the same old crap sentences as what you acclaimed, ignoring the fact that what goes around comes around. Where is your heart?
I saw you cry for so many times. I was there, all the time, swathed by the inevitable motionless of dark silhouette. You never noticed me, even once. It tears me apart to watch the precious droplets of your tears fall lazily from the pool of your eyes. To be honest, I am jaded. I am particularly affected by your will against my pure intention of bringing you back from your imaginary mirage, full with ostensibly genuine elation.
It was not my intention to disgorge the latent bitterness that I have been holding back. I was just nonplussed, whether all this while you have been acting as a dope or you are really dope. You never care. You always share your heart, make it vulnerable, and engulf it with graffiti of sanguinity that is devilishly unfathomable. Sometimes it came to me that who am I to you. You never care about me. You were too fixated with your devil-may-care attitude towards life albeit you know that victory is far from you.
So now talk to me. Look at me. Stare deep into my swollen eyes. They have grown drawn but still are able to smile and brighten your days, though they have always become the victim of your uncouth remarks when you are down. No dear, you are wrong if you think that I am apoplectic. I am not savoured by the omnipotent savagery, speaking as a whole situation with tip-top sober sagacity, because I know that myriad lashes of tantrum is not going to change the fact that I am actually your mind, who listens to your cries every time you feel hurt, though my whimpers are always left unheard by you, the soul that I dwell in.
I hope one day time will shake my hand and be on my side that you will finally listen to my cries. Until that time, I will never abandon you because no matter how neglectful you are to me, I will always be here in the corner of your body as a faithful listener until the end of time.
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Involve Yourself in Reading!
Instead of just reading, you need to read and think about what you’re reading. Here are some suggestions for doing just that
- Think of questions for yourself before, during, and after the reading session.
- Ask yourself what is happening next, why it’s happening, and what would happen if one event or fact was different.
- Note what interests you. Take a moment to make a mental comment out loud.
- Train yourself to summarize, a section at a time. What are the main points in the text you just read? What are the logical conclusion?
Visualize as You Read
Try to imagine yourself in the place you’re reading about, or try to imagine yourself doing what you’re studying. Include yourself in images that you build in your mind. If you’re reading about the Civil War, picture yourself on the battlefield. Why are you there? What is the enemy doing, and why? The better you can put yourself into a scene, the better you’ll remember what you are reading.
Of course, it’s much easier to visualize yourself in a battle than it is to link yourself to the major exports of Peru
. Instead of just trying to visualize “wool, wheat, and corn,” imagine you’re a Peruvian farmer raising sheep and growing wheat and corn. This will work with just about anything, except perhaps for numbers and dates.
Take a Note!
Taking notes won’t help you if you scribble down the words in class without thinking about what you’re writing, which is unfortunately the way too many students take notes.
The best way to take notes in class:
- Take them carefully while thinking about their content.
- Review them as you write.
- Summarize whenever possible. Isolate what’s important and discard the rest while you’re writing.
- Don’t take down every word your teacher says.
One of the most popular techniques for remembering written material is the PQRST method: Preview, Question, Read, State, and Test. Memory experts think this works better than simple rehearsal because it provides you with better retrieval cues.
- Preview. Skim through the material briefly. Read the preface, table of contents, and chapter summaries. Preview a chapter by studying the outline and skimming the chapter (especially headings, photographs, and charts). The object is to get an overview of the book or chapter (this shouldn’t take more than a few minutes).
- Question. Ask important questions about the information you’re reading. If the chapter includes review questions at the end, read them before you begin reading the chapter and try to keep them in mind as you go. What are the main points in the text? How does the action occur? Read over the paragraph headings and ask yourself questions about them.
- Read. Now read the material completely, without taking notes. Underlining text can help you remember the information, provided you do it properly. The first time you read a chapter, don’t underline anything (it’s hard to pick out the main points the first time through). Most people tend to underline way too many things, which isn’t helpful when you want to be able to go back later and review important points. Instead, read over one section and then go back and, as you work your way through each paragraph, underline the important points. Think about the points you’re underlining.
- State. State the answers to key questions out loud. Reread the chapter and ask yourself questions and answer them out loud. Read what you’ve underlined out loud, and think about what you’re saying. You should spend about half your studying time stating information out loud.
- Test. Test yourself to make sure you remembered the information. Go through the chapter again and ask questions. Space out your self-testing so you’re doing it during a study session, after a study session, and right before a test. If you’d like, enlist the help of a friend to quiz you.
Richard C. Mohs, Ph.D., has been vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine and associate chief of staff for research at the Bronx
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